The Irony Of Starting Over After A Break Up
After my recent break up one of the scariest things for me was the fact that I had to start from scratch. When I was with the one I loved, I thought and dreamed of a life, happily ever after. Then all of the sudden after the break up, the future that I planned came crashing down. I feel like the story or novel I had been writing has to be erased and I now I am yet again staring at a blank white paper.
I’ve come to a cross road, where I keep wondering, if I am so wonderful, why am I still single? I am sick of hearing the same old excuse, “It’s not me, it’s me”. What will it take to be the woman men don’t want to leave?
Time and again, it’s been a constant re-occurrence in my life. With each heartbreak, I feel like I’m being “damaged”. It’s a like a small part of me is getting “destroyed” with each break up. I am becoming even more feeling-less and losing faith in this so called love, I so.. believed.
Is there really a soul mate out there for me? Why do I have to meet so many “wrong” people until I find someone that’s “right”. You tend to ask yourself, “If this relationship didn’t work, will I ever find one that does?”
Break ups have a real way of tapping into your insecurities.
Often, feels near impossible to think of having anyone in your life close enough, that you are vulnerable to anyone ever again.
You wonder, why it’s happening to you; may be your friends have a really happy relationship with someone they love. But then, why not you? You are a caring, thoughtful wonderful person. But still, you fear that you might stair at a lonely future for the rest of your life.
So here I am back to square one. Would I give up on this search of finding someone awesome, who will see the best in me; someone who’d consider that I’m the best thing that happened to them.
Tossing Out Everything And Starting Over After A Break Up
Honestly, starting over after a break up is painfully difficult. The level of pain will depend on how attached you were to your ex and the relationship. Wouldn’t it be nice if it was easy as erasing a whiteboard! At this point I’ve tried that, but it seems that a few bits and pieces are still lurking around!
This makes me wonder, do you really NEED to toss out everything? Perhaps, there are a few things in your life that you want to keep.
But either way, you need to hop on the train to start over, all over again.
Starting Over After A Break Up – Take Action Toward a New Beginning
You can have a do-over starting today. But you have to get over the feeling that it’s too late. ~ Jean Chatzky
Perhaps your last relationship wasn’t so good. Maybe your entire relationship history makes you feel frustrated, annoyed and disappointed! However, it’s still not the end of the road. Don’t give up and think it’s too late.
After a relationship ends, it’s not only important to bounce back, it’s equally important to move forward. This means putting the past behind you and allowing yourself to truly start fresh.
Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You is one of the best books I’ve read on moving past a break up. I keep revisiting the book, over and again! (here’s my review of the book). Every time I read this, it give me clarity, hope and the necessary “kick start” I need to start over after a break up.