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58 Practical Ways To Cut Off Contact With Your Ex And Stay Away from Your Ex

Persha — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 14:08:55 +0000

“You have to cut off all contact and stay away from your ex”, said one of my friend’s who was trying to help me get past my recent breakup. In theory, this sounds so easy; but in reality your fingers want to waltz in direction of your ex number phone number!
So I know all too well, that it’s not easy as the written word, to cut off contact with my ex!

I am listing out all possibilities to cut off contact with your ex. It’s up to you to decided what is best suited for your situation.
Some of these may sound a bit too extreme for you. It all depends on the sort of breakup you had. If the breakup was a mutual understanding, and you have no problems withing in contact with your ex, then I doubt that all this is needed.

Cut Off Technology Links to Stay Away From Your Ex

1. Erase your ex’s phone number from your phone (Block the number if you have to!)
2. Don’t pick up the phone if your ex calls (again easier said than done I know!)
3. Keep your ex’s email address out of your online address book
4. Unfriend your ex from facebook/my space. It isn’t healthy to obsess over his or her wall posts, status updates and photos. Basically, don’t be friends with them on Facebook.
5. Unfollow your ex from twitter. Following your ex’s tweets won’t help you move on from the relationship.
6. Discipline.. discipline! Don’t google your ex!

Avoid Common Places to Stay Away From Your Ex

7. Don’t take the route to where your ex is living just so you can have a glimpse!
8. Avoid your Ex’s workplace (if you don’t happen to work together!)
9. Avoid your Ex’s favorite hang out places. Don’t think you can reverse your breakup.
10. If you have friend in common, then you need to figure out a way to handle that

Extract Your Ex To Cut Off Contact

11. Take down all your ex pictures, perhaps you have pictures of happier times
12. Box up anything that reminds you of your ex that may be in your apartment/house

Reclaim your space as your space

13. Move your furniture around, so that it won’t look too familiar
14. Buy fresh new bedding
15. Redecorate your room space – Out with the Old, In with the New
16. Change your daily routine. Meet new people, make new friends.

Keep Yourself Busy To Stay Away From Your Ex

17. Find a new hobby (learn to play the guitar, start a new blog)
18. Volunteer your time for a worthy cause
19. Read a book on, How To Be The Woman Men Adore And Never Want To Leave!
20. Anything you can to do further your career? learn more about, take a class, pass an exam
Here’s more!, 38 Ways To Keep Busy After A Break Up

What has worked for you to cut off contact with your ex after the break up?

22 Ways You Make Your Life More Miserable After A Break Up

Persha — Tue, 22 Feb 2011 16:44:04 +0000

It’s bad enough that the break up itself makes you miserable. You feel like your whole world just turned upside down; you feel incapable of going on. At the same time, you (unconsciously?) do more things to make life even more miserable after a break up! These are a few ways you might be digging your own grave. Wake up!

How your mind makes your life miserable after a break up

1. You blame yourself for the break up
2. Feel that you are not good enough
3. Wonder what you could have done differently
4. Think that the person who broke your heart, is the only one for you
5. Compare yourself to your ex’s new partner
6. Think there is no purpose in living
7. Not dealing with your emotions
8. Keeping hope alive that you will get back together

How your daily activities make your life miserable after a break up

9. Mope around in pajamas for days
10. Jumping into a relationship with someone too soon (rebound dating)
11. Keeping tabs on your ex
12. Turning Into a party animal
13. Plotting revenge on your ex
14. Drowning your sorrows in alcohol
15. Keep contact with your ex
16. Waiting by the phone hoping your ex will call
17. Holding on to things that remind your of your ex
18. Listing to depressing break up songs
19. Desperately pleading with your ex, to take you back
20. Joining sites like BeNaughty.com and trying to find dates.
21. Ignoring your friends and family who want to help you, get through this break up period
22. Neglecting your current responsibly in the face of being dumped (kids, work etc)

If you recently went through a break up or is going through a agonizing break up, I’m sure you’ll have plenty to add to this list.
How have you made your life more miserable? Anything more you would like to add from your experience? Leave a comment below, I would love to hear from you.

Breakup Reversed-You Say I Can Reverse My Breakup WTF!

Persha — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 16:16:34 +0000

I recently bought Breakup Reversed. Like a fool I gave into the emotional appeal it offered, in their landing page. In my defense, they offered a 60 day money back guarantee, so I figured I will definitely get a refund if Breakup Reversed turned out to be crap.

The claims of what this program offered were pretty strong.
It said 94% of relationships can be saved using the methods in the Breakup Reversed program. It seemed a popular break up advice program that has been featured in publications like Cosmopolitan, GQ, and Glamour. The author, Robert Parsons claims to have helped 7,340 people in 23 countries to get their exes back!

“Really?”, me thinks.. My mind has already raced; I am picturing myself, back in the arms of my loving boyfriend!

So did it deliver on what it promises? Here’s my unbiased, honest review of Breakup Reversed program.

Breakup Reversed- What the program contains

1. Breakup Reversed Ebook
2. The Full Audio Version of the course
3. Instant Heartache Relief (BONUS)
4. Breakup Reversed Quick Reference Guide (BONUS)
5. Secrets to Saving Any Marriage (BONUS)
6. How To Keep The Fire Burning After You Make Up (BONUS)
7. FREE Counselling with Robert Parsons for 3 Months (BONUS)
You get Robert Parsons personal email address which makes it possible have one on one sessions with him, to sort out your specific issues. This way you can get to the root of the problems you are having. (For me, this was the most useful)

Guarantee / Terms: 60 Day money back guarantee if not satisfied with the product.

Breakup Reversed – What’s it all about

The book starts off by showing you how to get a relief from the emotional pain of a breakup. It drills into your brain that only after you start thinking straight, can you get any progress in your relationship!

It identifies several mistakes most people make during a break up, details why each and every one is destined to fail. It highlights that the usual methods of getting your ex back normally do more harm and drive your partner away.

It will help you learn how to trigger positive emotions in your partner which can make them look at you differently. I thought this section was important because sometimes we tend to take for granted that we actually know what makes others tick. However the truth is that we rarely know each other as well as we think we do.

Another useful thing for me was learning how to interact with your ex, talk to them and how to act the first them you see them after a break up!
Finally, it focuses on a plan to get your ex back, putting aside your emotional trauma.

As with any product, Breakup Reversed is aimed at getting you back into a relationship with your ex, but YOU need to do the work. Ultimately, all the suggestions in the program mean nothing if you simply learn from the information and don’t take action or just ignore it.

Could You Give Someone Who Broke Your Heart A Second Chance ?

Persha — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 05:50:53 +0000

We all mess up now and again, thus giving someone a second chance is not something unheard of. At some point in life, we face the dilemma of either asking for a second chance or deciding to give someone a second chance.

What would you do, if one of these people asked you for a second chance? Showed remorse for what happened previously; pleaded with you, and told you how much he/she has changed… for the better? How hard would it be to give that second chance?

“Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me”

Famous sayings such as the above don’t make it any easier!

This person hurt you once; you felt let down.

How can you be sure that it won’t happen again?

Has this person really changed?

Could you see yourself ever trusting him/her?

Caring about him/her freely again after what he/she did?

Would you want to risk it ALL again?

Have you ever been in caught up in such torment?

On giving someone who broke your heart a second chance: My two cents

People fight; get confused about what they want. They breakup and get back together; It happens. What matters is should it happen to you.

You have to be able to realize what went wrong the last time and not let emotions cloud your judgment.

Make sure that the other person is sincere in efforts to get back together and for wanting a second chance. If this is not the case, you could find the one who cares enough to not hurt you that much. Just be honest with yourself about if he/she is worth the risk again. If not, you’re setting yourself up for another breakup.

After Being Dumped, Force Yourself To Accept It’s Really Over

Persha — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 03:20:33 +0000

Accept relationship is over after a breakup

Some relationships are casual or convenient, and when they end, it isn’t too hard to shrug them off and move on. They don’t linger in the psyche and they don’t have much effect on the future. And then there’s true love gone wrong… it’s like a horrible car crash. Not just a fender bender but also a real incident that leaves everybody shaken up. After the accident you’re not sure what happened or what to do next.

Getting over being dumped can be extremely difficult… emotionally, mentally, and even physically at times. If your ex ended your relationship before you wanted it to be over, it’s even more so. As much as you hate to hear this, it was your partner’s decision to end the relationship. Whether you saw it coming or you were totally blindsided by the break up, you won’t be able to move forward until you put aside any denial.

So, take it from someone who went through the process of being dumped, sitting around feeling sorry for yourself day after day isn’t going to help. One of the most important things you’ll need to do is admit to yourself that the relationship is over (however you may be feeling!). Getting over your ex is virtually impossible if you’re fantasizing about getting back together.

I’m highlighting this again,

The road to recovery start with accepting your break up.

Until you do this, you really can’t do anything else.

If you hang onto the relationship for a little too long, and this can cause you to do stupid and desperate things, which you might regret later.

The ugly truth of being dumped is no one wants to get dumped; It’s not in our nature to know how to accept it! Sadly, I can’t make you not feel hurt for the one you have lost. But eventually, we deal with it all, we have to. It makes us who we are today.