Single & Surviving Valentine’s Day Alone
February 13, 2010 by Persha Davis
Filed under Getting over
Oh God no, it’s Valentine’s Day again.
This week has been quite a dreaded week. Tune into watch a favorite TV series, a Valentine’s Day gift or some related message is thrown right in front of your face. It’s that time of the year, where you see a red heart shaped something, every corner you turn.
This is all well and good if you are in a loving relationship, and can look forward to an evening of romance (and more!). Hopefully, your partner will remember that it’s Valentine’s Day (how can anyone forget it, when it’s such a constant reminder!) and show great appreciate of how wonderful it is to have you as a partner.
Then there’s a flip side where you can’t bare to hear words like “single,” “happy,” and “valentine” in one sentence. This is more applicable if you are getting over a break up or have been single for a while; Valentine’s Day can be an annoying nightmare. You want to wake up from it as soon as possible, but reality is making a great effort to prolong every possible minute!
I made a promise to myself last Valentine’s Day (2009), “I am not going to be single for next year’s Valentine’s Day”. Faster than I could blink 2010 arrived and fast forwarded to today. Sadly, I am still staring at the same bleak path. It’s not the chocolate wrapped in fancy paper, nor the giant teddy bears or the roses that I long for. It’s much much more…
So how is it that a sexy, smart, successful and charming individual is single on Valentine’s Day?
Why the F*** am I single? (while I’d like to answer that here, it deserves a post of its own.. which will come in the future. Stay tuned!)
You might think I am desperate. May be I am. But for the right person. How many “wrong” people should I date before I find the right one? How many “wrong” relationships should I be in before I can live “happily ever after”? (Dear God, if you have a plan, I don’t understand it!)
Hola everybody, Happy Valentines Day!!!
hey whats your myspace page.
im feeling it
“So how is it that a sexy, smart, successful and charming individual is single on Valentine’s Day?”
OBVIOUSLY, one main reason is that despite writing stories that make men interested in dating her, she doesn’t provide a profile that would tell more about herself, nor any contact info! Hello?
Imho us should start w/ those basics. Really. As I experienced, falling in love w/ someone you only know from internet conversations is possible. As this article http://www.wickedlocal.com/hanover/mysource/health/x549736333/Dr-Murray-Feingold-What-makes-love-tick says, “studies have shown that people are attracted to other people who resemble themselves in interests, moral values, personality, background and physical appearance.” Since these are characteristics that can be expressed on social network sites like Facebook and such, attracting a new partner over the intertubes is possible. For folks who are shy or otherwise insecure about their appearance, it may even be easier than dating someone in real life.
Also, pls note: “A study of college students showed that couples with the same language styles were four times more likely to contact each other for a further relationship compared with those who had different speaking styles.” So, the more folks read your stuff, the higher the chance that someone will connect with you! IF you provide a means for this, of course.
Btw, re: God’s plan – years ago I have come to the conclusion that he/she has a weird sense of humor and loves to turn the lifes of some of us humans into a ridiculous kabuki theatre. Probably focussing on the most entertaining people. So, welcome to this galactic soap opera!