On Being Dumped: Don’t Cry Over Someone Who Won’t Cry Over You
January 26, 2010 by Persha Davis
Filed under Break up Advice
In my last post, I shared my sad story of being dumped, the most devastating break up I’ve had so far. From the day, I got dumped, the days that followed are a bit blurry, but I remember crying for almost 3 days. I still remember , that I sat here, looking at this very screen through red, swollen, dripping eyes. I was hopeless and depressed. I just knew that I will never love again, nor could I think of being happy ever again.
I also had to listen through well meant (irritating nevertheless!) break up advice, from various individuals. The best advice I got was from my mum who told me repeatedly, “Don’t cry over someone who won’t cry over you”.
Yes, it was painful to hear this harsh truth. But hearing it, day in day out, really did sink in, gradually… It made me wonder…, How can he treat me like this?
Don’t Cry Over Someone Who Won’t Cry Over You
Whatever your situation, whatever the reason you are hurting, think about what you’re doing. Obviously, we hurt and there are so many different ways we deal with our pain. But if you are hurting over someone who didn’t give the 100% that you did, think about it! That time you spend crying, moping or whatever you’re doing could be time spent with people who DO give you 100%.
We all have a limited time on this planet earth, and when being dumped, that’s not something that comes to our radar. Why waste even ONE of those moments sitting home and crying about someone who doesn’t DESERVE you?
Many months have gone by since the day I was dumped and each day I feel a little better. But it’s the little things that keep bringing me back, tugging at the strings and reminding me… causing the pain. That’s when I use the affirmation, Don’t cry over someone who won’t cry over you.
It is honestly what’s helping me get over my ex. He doesn’t deserve my time. The people that TRULY love me are the ones who get my time. Think about those people who ARE THERE for you. If it’s meant to be it will be, but in the mean time, live your life with no regrets and spend it with people who matter.
When we find the one that turns our tears of sadness into tears of happiness, we will smile and be happy. Until then, its lessons learned, some pages burned and “Don’t cry over someone who won’t cry over you” ! You and I will get through it, in the end.
You have tested it and writing form your personal experience or you find some information online?
@Nicotine: yes, this is purely from my personal experience.
I’m looking forward to getting more information about this topic, don’t worry about negative opinions.
@Nicotine: yes, this is purely from my personal experience.
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You are soooo correct. Was in just such a relationship. I fell in love and he could not. I dumped him and deleted him from everything. Although I cried about it, I was crying while in it, Had to get out because I’m not wasting another minute of my time on a dead end street. It doesn’t work for me. I don’t think that I’m unlovable, stupid, useless, or unattractive. I just know without a doubt, that you can’t MAKE someone love you, who doesn’t. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. And know that what you felt, he’ll feel because the one he ends up loving may not love him. We all go through it at one point of time. I refuse to shed another tear over someone who definitely is not crying over me.
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