Being dumped is the worst feeling ever

Being Dumped : The realization that it ends here

You had a lifetime of activities planned and your loving partner was a major part in this future script. Then to suddenly realize that you have been dumped…, it’s like the carpet you standing on is pulled right-out from underneath. Your life as you knew it doesn’t exist anymore, and it feels like a part of you is missing. Sometimes you feel like you’ll never be happy again.

Being Dumped : The worst part of the end of a relationship can be the lack of one

When you are in a relationship, you tend to give a lot of the “me” activities you enjoy in favor of the “we” activities that you could do as a couple. Gradually, you begin to enjoy and the things you’ll do together becomes a routine. When a relationship ends, sometimes it feels like you need to adjust your routine as well.
For example, my boyfriend (now ex!) and I used to go running every week-end morning. After we broke up, I still wanted to continue my running, but the very activity reminded me of him.
Another thing that made me miserable was coming home to an empty house after work; missing the affectionate words I used to hear all the time… yes, I missed him all over again!

Being Dumped : The Fear

You will find yourself facing two very real fears.
1) The fear that you will never recover from this pain
2) The fear that no one will ever love you again.

Being Dumped : The wounded ago

The lousiest feeling in the world is when you love someone so deeply and intimately that it suddenly ends with rejection by our partner. Finding out that they do not return the love and emotion that you have for them is one of the worst feelings there is.

Have you ever been dumped? What’s the worst feeling you experienced about being dumped?

Being Dumped The Truth

Being dumped ……ever feel like your entire world has just turned upside down? Feel like dying?

During the first few days after being dumped, I felt everything…. shock, anger, rejection, resentment, self pity, revenge, pride, despair, loneness, sadness, guilt and fear. I found it impossible to get out of bed; my body ached and I had a strong desire to sleep for the next 100 years!

While there have been many break ups in my life, the one that left me totally devastated happened about 2 years ago (2 years, 3 months & 12 days to be exact! Glory details of the break up will follow in another post, stay tuned!) The fact that I am here, writing this.. yes, I did get out of bed at some point.

Being dumped: The Truth

Learning how to get over a break up is never easy

Just because you have been through a similar situation doesn’t necessarily mean it will be less painful, the next time a break up happens. Even if you have been dumped n times, each time it will feel like the first time.

Being dumped: The Half Truth

Depending on how much you love(d) the person, the length of the relationship etc. the pain can make you numb. At the end of the day, you have to deal with the pain, and learn to get on with your life. No one else can do that for you.

“If it doesn`t kill you, it will only make you stronger.”

Being dumped: Nothing Like The Truth

Endless conversations with close friends, relationship experts, books and advice columns…They all tell you the same darn thing:

It takes time to get over it!

It certainly does, but that’s probably the last thing you want to hear when you are going through a break up; and happiness doesn’t even seem to be in your radar. I know the biggest revenge is to just be happy—and I am! With each day that becomes closer and closer to enough. If you have any shortcuts to speed up the recovery process after being dumped, leave a comment below. I’m all ears!