Break Up Advice I Hate Hearing When I’m Getting Over Someone!
November 8, 2009 by Persha
Filed under Break up Advice
Break up Advice I hate
Whenever I go through a break up, several friends and family members (voluntarily) shower me with break up advice. I know that they mean well and have my best interest at heart. However, when I am getting over someone, these types of break up advice is the last thing I want to hear (even though deep down I know it’s true!)
Break Up Advice #1: Time heals all wounds
This is probably the most common & overused break up advice of all time! I absolutely hate this word: TIME….
Now, you might think that I am being immature. Not at all.
I perfectly understand getting over someone is a long term process.
I realize that I will get over this eventually, and I need to hang in there and be positive.
Ok. So why don’t I want to hear “time heals everything” type of break up advice? Well, this sensible logic does not seek in when you have just broken up; when I am getting over someone, I don’t want to “wait” to feel good; what I want to know is “How can I feel better right NOW?”
Break Up Advice #2: You’re a real catch, you’ll be just fine.
While this may be true, what it actually does is make me feel like my feelings of loneliness and heartbreak are invalid; as if those feelings shouldn’t exist and that my pain is something to ignore.
Break Up Advice #3: You are better off without him/her
I guarantee that you will hear “you’re better off without ….” from everyone you know after the break up. I can’t believe that it has become casual conversation for some people. Here’s an actual life script from my past.
3 days after my break up I am at office with my brave face, pouring a cup of coffee near the Coffee maker. Along comes a colleague who I have spoken to about once or twice.
Colleague : Sorry to hear that you broke up with …
Me: silently force a fake smile
Colleague : Are you ok?
Me: I’m getting by I wanted to yell, NO!
Colleague : You know, I didn’t tell you this before but I never liked him, even when you guys were dating. You are better off without him.
Me: Hm.. try my best to keep calm and not lash out !
Break Up Advice #4: There are other fish in the sea
Of course there are other fish in the sea! It would border on the ridiculous to say or think otherwise. However, during a break up we tend to think along the lines of “you’re still the one for me”, “How do I get my Ex back” and looking beyond that, seems near impossible.
I would like to hear your thoughts and experiences on listening to such break up advice. Do you get the urge to strangle the person who says such things! Or is it a non-issue for you?
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