I was completely devastated after the incident, I’ve been stalking her online for about year, but decided to stop recently. Getting over is such a difficult process if not you can’t control your conscious and behavior. I used to feel good for about few weeks but got back into the horrible blackhole for several days or weeks after that, and it was just a repetition of the extreme cycle.

But really. The truth is, whatever reasons of the breakup, however the relationship ended, it DID because it was for the better for yourself.

Breakups are extremely painful, it can be a source of self-depletion, self-doubt, self-hatred and distrust of people in general….but you’ll get over it. At least, I am. It’s been about a year, and I can say that the breakup helped me discover the true self. I was always anxious, always insecure about the connection with the person, but that was just because she was an insecure person herself. Distrust and fear is poison for any connection.

It takes time, but have faith in yourself.
Don’t stalk as it can kill you (I know from experience. Its just poison, and the person is probably not worth the time/effort.)
Try to focus on yourself.
Just yourself.
What you want, your desires, wants, needs, your future, your dislikes/likes…you’ll probably come out of the breakup feeling MUCH BETTER about yourself, more confident (as you’ve discovered yourself AND gotten over something painful), and more self-loving.